T.O.'d

This shouldn't make me so annoyed, but none the less I am and need to vent: So "our" church is planning their first ever All Church Retreat for later this summer. Since Mike and I have been on a lot of retreats and are generally for them, they asked if we would help plan it. Sure, I figured, it would give me some say into making it good. Mike wrote out a good starter schedule with ideas and presented it at a meeting Wednesday night. They liked it, except for two points that irk me. 1. They didn't like the idea of a "date night" for couples to have some time together. Now that certainly isn't a required part of the schedule, and since we do have single people in our church, I'm totally fine with not having one so as not to highlight that difference. However, I feel like the reason that "they" didn't want to have it was because there's this unspoken segregation that exists and any chance for male and female to work or study or interact together (even married) is discouraged. Everything here is "women's ministry" or "men's fellowship." We tried a Bible Study for couples once, no one came. Frustrating. 2. The second and bigger issue for me is that they decided to not bring in an outside speaker. For me a retreat is a block of time set aside for concentrated study of God, the Bible, and its directives for my life with a group of people also wanting to know God better and do life his way. "Fellowship" is nice, games are nice, "testimonys" are nice, but I want a focus, a chance to learn, to go into a depth that we can't do in 20 minutes on a Sunday morning. Like I said to Mike "what do these people have against depth??!!" They want to have people from within the church speak and share testimonys. I'm not denying that God could use that, and that there are some great people with good messages in this church, but I just feel like we're missing out on a chance to focus. And I feel like they're afraid or something of a real challenge that an "outsider" might bring. I guess mostly I'm just disappointed; I am so hungry for the "solid food" that Paul speaks of and I was hoping that this would be a chance that I could, along with this "church family" I'm supposed to be a part of, really get some meat. I connect best with others when we learn and grow together. What's the point of this retreat if it doesn't have , well, a point? I'm not sure I want to go anymore.